Your Whole Relationship:
Sex, Desire, Intimacy, and Connection
A special workshop for couples who have participated in the Hold Me Tight® Workshop or EFT Therapy
April 13-15, 2018
Cambria Pines Lodge
Starts Friday at 3 PM and ends Sunday by 2 PM
Join us in an enriching weekend experience, facilitated by relationship experts and clinical psychologists Silvina Irwin, Ph.D. and Lisa Blum, Psy.D., at this unique couples workshop.
In Hold Me Tight® or EFT Therapy, you learned and practiced nurturing a deeper and more secure emotional connection. In this next-step workshop, you will learn how to enhance your sexual connection, cultivating intimacy, safety, healing, playfulness, and fun!
We welcome same-sex and opposite-sex couples who have experienced EFT therapy or the Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop and who want to take the next step in cultivating greater closeness, intimacy and desire in your relationship.
This workshop will help you and your partner explore, open deeper dialogue, and find greater understanding about your sexual relationship, to create a pathway for enhancing intimacy and connection through physical touch and sexuality.
This weekend will provide a safe space to explore emotional and physical blocks in your sexual relationship, learn about your own and your partner’s sexuality and desires, help you to make it safe enough to talk about these difficult things, and discover together how you both want to construct a fulfilling, meaningful, rewarding, pleasurable sexual relationship -- in whatever form that takes for you.
In our many years providing couples therapy to help heal relationships, we have witnessed how hard it is to talk honestly and openly about challenges in your sexual relationship. For some couples, it’s a matter of not being able to talk about it at all. For other couples, conversations about sex are filled with anxiety, shame, embarrassment, and fear of hurting your partner, so it's hard to find resolution or feel more connected. We designed this workshop to help couples find greater ease in having these conversations -- even to experience playfulness and fun in these conversations -- because it’s hard to repair and enhance something that you cannot talk about.
We also know that even when some couples are able to have good conversations about sex, they can still struggle to find a way back to touching and physical intimacy when that has been "offline" for a while. This workshops offers couples safe, secure, and playful ways to experiment with different kinds of touch so that they can re-start, re-discover, or enhance their physical intimacy.
We will explore multiple ways of connecting and communicating in your sensual and sexual connection. The workshop will include exercises in a variety of forms -- talking, breathing, safe touch, non-verbal attunement, writing, imagery -- that will allow you to privately and safely open up communication, connection, and playfulness between you. (Please be assured that all exercises will respect privacy and take into account the group setting.)
This workshop is not sex therapy – that is, we will not diagnose or focus on treatment for specific sexual difficulties, such as erectile dysfunction, vaginal pain, premature ejaculation, or porn addiction. We will not put any kind of label at all on the struggles you may be experiencing. Whatever kinds of struggles you and your partner are experiencing, we welcome you to the workshop. The workshop will offer you a pathway to talk about what is and is not working in your sexual relationship for each of you, and to make a plan together for how you both want to address these difficulties, and heal them.
Your facilitators for this workshop, Drs. Lisa Blum and Silvina Irwin, are experienced couples therapists with advanced training and certifications in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and are not certified sex therapists. Their expertise is in helping couples integrate sexuality and physical intimacy, desire and connection into a healthy, safe, attuned, loving, whole relationship.
The workshop begins on Friday at 3:00 pm and ends on Sunday around 1:30/2:00 pm, with a fairly full schedule throughout. Perhaps you may wish to consider whether you and your partner are able to add an extra day either before or after the workshop so you can enjoy beautiful Cambria at your leisure.
- Friday. 3:00 - 6:30 pm
- Saturday. 9:00 - 1:00 pm, 2:30-6:30 pm
- Sunday. 9:30-1:30 pm
About two weeks prior to the workshop, we will send out an email providing you with important details such as the final schedule, parking info, how to prepare, weather and dress, etc.
Your workshop fee includes accommodations in one of the spacious rooms at the Cambria Pines Lodge Friday and Saturday nights of the workshop. Complimentary Wi-Fi and parking is available. Check out is at 11 am on Sunday. If you would like to attend the workshop, but do not need accommodations at the lodge, we have a “workshop only” fee for a limited number of participants. Please email us directly at firstname.lastname@example.org for the code to enter at registration for this option.
Meals & Refreshments
Your workshop fee includes a plentiful breakfast in the Treetop Room located on at the Cambria Pines Lodge both Saturday and Sunday mornings. Light refreshments and beverages will be provided during workshop hours. Lunches and dinners are on your own to be enjoyed at one of the many lovely restaurants the town of Cambria has to offer or at the Cambria Pines Lodge. We strongly recommend making reservations in advance. Yelp, Trip Advisor, etc. are good sources for restaurant recommendations.
Continuing Education (for mental health professionals)
Illuminated Education is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Illuminated Education maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts APA approval for CE activities for MFTs, LCSWs, LPPCs and/or LEPs.
If you are licensed outside of California: Because each state’s licensing regulations differ and are subject to change, it is the license holders responsibility to determine if your licensing board accepts APA approval for continuing education activities. For additional information, please go to the Illuminated Education web page at illuminateded.com or contact Dr. Chris Cooper, proprietor of Illuminated Education at 626.744.9472 or email@example.com.