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Hold Me Tight Workshop for Couples:

 October 21st - 23rd, 2016
at the Beautiful Inn at Laguna Beach


Strengthen, renew, and repair your relationship in this internationally recognized workshop based on the best-selling book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations For A Lifetime of Love, by Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT).  

​In the Hold Me Tight Workshop, Together You Will Experience How To:

  • Get unstuck from cycles of pain, frustration and distance.  

  • Make sense of your emotions and needs in the relationship.

  •  Change how you communicate.

  • Increase trust and Intimacy

  • Heal Injuries and Forgive

More About The Workshop

You will understand how the science of adult love works without the jargon -- yes, there is an actual science to love, and it is called attachment theory.  There will be lively discussion and presentations on cutting edge research that has unlocked the mystery of how we bond with and stay securely attached to our most important loved ones.  You will apply this to your own relationship to love with more fullness, aliveness, presence, and deeper connection.  

You will do meaningful exercises together as a couple in private, after watching video clips of real couples like yourselves doing the same exercises, as well as experience the benefit of being part of a safe and supportive group environment of other couples whose shared goal is to strengthen and heal their relationship.  No group speaking or sharing is required.

You will be guided by experienced couples therapists, trained and practiced in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a research-validated approach to helping couples heal distressed relationships*, and the basis for the Hold Me Tight program. The weekend educational workshop consists of approximately 15 hours of focused time to heal and strengthen your relationship. 

You receive a complete notebook of all Hold Me Tight exercises as take-home materials to keep that allow you to return to any part of the workshop at any time in private and redo, rediscover, and deepen the work you did in the workshop.

The investment you make in your relationship will come back to you ten-fold in greater feelings of trust, safety, intimacy, erotic connection, and fun!

Be More Accessible, Responsive and Engaged In Your Relationship 
Seven Transforming Conversations


Recognizing Demon Dialogues—In this first conversation, couples identify negative and destructive remarks in order to get to the root of the problem and figure out what each of you is really trying to say.

Finding the Raw Spots—Here, each partner learns to look beyond immediate, impulsive reactions to figure out what is really driving reactive behavior.

Revisiting a Rocky Moment—This conversation provides a platform for de-escalating conflict and repairing rifts in a relationship and building emotional safety.

Hold Me Tight—The heart of the program: this conversation moves partners into being more accessible, emotionally responsive, and deeply engaged with each other.

Forgiving Injuries—Injuries may be forgiven but they never disappear. Instead, they need to become integrated into couples’ conversations as demonstrations of renewal and connection. Knowing how to find and offer forgiveness empowers couples to strengthen their bond.

Bonding Through Sex and Touch— Couples find how emotional connection creates great sex, and good sex creates deeper emotional connection.

Keeping Your Love Alive— Love is a continual process of losing and finding emotional connection; it asks couples to be deliberate and mindful about maintaining connection.

​Dates and Times

The workshops sessions will be conducted as Fri-Sun or Sat/Sun weekend retreats. Please check our website for dates, times and format offerings.

Program Discounts

Inquire about available discounts: student rate, ICEEFT member; and referral from prior HMT participant.

We accept cash, check and all major credit cards. 

If paying by check, please make check payable to the EFT Resource Center and mail to: 

95 North Marengo Ave. Ste 200
Pasadena, CA 91101


Location and Parking

For workshop locations other than Pasadena, directions, travel and parking information will be sent in advance of the workshop date.

Pasadena workshop sessions will be held at the EFT Resource Center at  95 N. Marengo Avenue Pasadena, CA 91101.  Signs will be posted to direct you to our meeting room.  There is metered parking available on side streets (please read signs carefully), and a city parking structure is available ½ block away at the corner of Holly Street and Arroyo Parkway.

Travel and Hotel Accommodations

For Pasadena and Los Angeles workshop locations, local airports include Bob Hope Airport (this is the most conveniently located airport to Pasadena), Los Angeles International Airport (LAX) and Long Beach Airport. Please be sure to account for some delays due to LA traffic in your travel time.  Click here for a listing of nearby Pasadena area hotels to consider for your accommodations. 

Program Requirements

All participants are asked to:

- Purchase a copy of Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Dr. Sue Johnson.  It recommended that you read the book in it's entirety prior to the start of the workshop for the weekend format. 

- Complete the Registration form.  

Cancellation/Refund Policy  

Cancellation policies for retreat locations vary and will be posted for each retreat program.

For Pasadena Workshops:  

If you cancel your enrollment more than 48 hours prior to the start date of the program for any reason, we will refund you the full cost of tuition, minus a $25 administrative fee.  If you must cancel within 48 hours of the workshop, we will credit your registration fee towards the cost of a future EFT Resource Center workshop.  Please note that workshop fees vary depending on location.  There are no refunds for cancellations beyond the start date of the program.  


For more information, please contact us.

​Note: This program is educational and is designed for relationship repair and enhancement. We welcome any couple wishing to heal, deepen and improve their relationship.  If, however,  you are experiencing intense relationship distress (e.g. violence in the relationship, threats to feelings of safety), it may be better to find a couple’s therapist in your community. Drs. Irwin and Blum can assist you with referrals if you wish. 
Your Whole Relationship: Sex, Desire, Intimacy & Connection 

A special workshop for couples who have participated in the Hold Me Tight® Program

May 20-22, 2016

Starts Friday May 20th 3pm - Sunday May 22 by 2pm 



Join us in an enriching weekend experience, facilitated by relationship experts and clinical psychologists Silvina Irwin, Ph.D. and Lisa Blum, Psy.D., at this unique couples workshop at the beautiful PepperTree Retreat Center in nearby Ojai, CA.

In Hold Me Tight® you learned and practiced nurturing a deeper and more secure emotional connection. In this follow-up workshop, you will learn how to enhance your sexual connection, cultivating intimacy, safety, healing, playfulness, and fun!

All couples who have previously completed any Hold Me Tight® couples workshop or who have had a course of EFT therapy and who want to take the next step in cultivating greater closeness, connection and intimacy in their relationship are welcome to join us.

Registration is limited so that we can have a small, comfortable group experience.

Fee: $610 per couple for the workshop - lodging fees are separate and require a separate reservation (See link for further details below).

**Details about the workshop, including what will be covered, schedule, lodging options, etc, can be found on this downloadable Word document.**